My detour to happiness.
Andrea Arlington is a Certified Family Recovery and Relationship Educator and Coach. She is a Speaker, former reality show star and author of the forthcoming book "5-Steps to Family Recovery"
Andrea's journey led her through decades of living with loved ones who suffered with addictive patterns from heroin and alcohol to sex and other substance use disorders, she also suffered with multiple forms of both addictive and co-addictive patterns herself.
When her marriage failed, she took a hard look at her life, came to understand she would never find inner peace and happiness unless she took a deep dive into her own recovery. She became educated, mentored and coached by the best of the best in the recovery and treatment world, learned proven tools and strategies, acquired numerous certifications in the recovery and treatment field and now use my training and experiences with it all to create a very fulfilling career as a family recovery and relationship coach for parents and families.
You don’t have to do it alone.
We cannot wait for our loved ones to hit bottom. In 2018, there were 67,367 lethal drug overdoses in the United States alone – this disease is deadly!
I lost my younger brother Ben who was an IV drug user when I was 21 and he was just 17. I am also the former wife of men who suffered from Substance- Use -Disorder and the mother of two girls who were IV heroin addicts and who now have 7 years and almost 5 years of recovery. I struggled for years to rescue, fix and control all of them. And instead of contributing to their recovery, I enabled and alienated them. I yelled and screamed, shamed, blamed and threatened. I was overwhelmed, lost, ashamed and filled with fear morning, noon and night.
Like so many parents and family members dealing with this deadly disease, I went crazy and ended up pushing them and everyone else in my life away when all I really wanted just like you, was to hold them close and wake them from the nightmare.
We lost everything and it was all caught on film on the E! Entertainment reality show "Pretty Wild" as our family was slaughtered in the Media because of my daughters alleged involvement with the Bling Ring burglaries.
I was clueless about addiction and co-dependency back then. But not anymore, now I understand. No one can do this alone. Although it works for some, Al-anon didn’t work for me. Looking back I needed much deeper connection with people than I found in those rooms. I needed someone who would help me and who could help me, help my loved one's.
Ironically, my experiences with addiction, self medicating and co-dependance have led me to a very fulfilling career as a family recovery and relationship coach for parents and families whose loved one's are heroin addicts or who suffer from addictive patterns themselves. I can help you.
If what you've been doing isn't working, I can offer you a new perspective. I can help you find inner peace and recovery for yourself. I can help you get your sanity and life back and become your child's best chance at recovery. Of course there are no guarantees, but studies show that a loved one has a much better chance at recovery when one or more family members get into recovery themselves and without a doubt, you will benefit from your own transformation.
In all of my life, nothing has been more devastating than losing my brother and then having a children addicted to heroin and not knowing how to help them get well. Perhaps like me, you have NO CLUE how to help your loved one, how to get your life back, how to find your inner peace, and breathe easy again. But you can, even if they are still using.
Despite the insanity of all the lying, criminal activity, job loss, financial devastation and so much more, I promise you can recover and become your loved one's best chance for recovery! I see and hear it with parents and families every day and you can too!
You are not alone. Where there is life, there is hope!